Thursday, July 19, 2012

thoughts on blogging



I've had such a pull lately to share more of my heart on here. Today, this comes in the form of an incoherent ramble. When pondering my time spent blogging, I decided to type it out. 

In blogging and in life, in general:

There's always pride to kill when you get a little boastful because of a magazine feature, a jump in readers, a record amount of comments. 

There's always narcissism to attack when you notice how many photos you're instagramming of yourself a day.

There's always some heartbreak along the way when you get a nasty anonymous comment. 

There's always a good dose of humility to swallow when you put a lot of work into a post and don't get the pins or comments you thought you deserved. 

Deserved. 

That word -  right there -  is a punch to the gut, isn't it? I see a LOT of entitlement in myself on a daily basis. The yuck in my heart when I get prideful & entitled is gross...and to be quite honest, it's often that I see it in others and start to judge them harshly and roll my eyes (again, YUCK in my heart) as I click away from their blog, vowing to never read it again because they are wretched sinners, often hypocrites who don't see the sin in their own life. For real. This is actually what I think and have to catch myself... because I'm so incredibly screwed up and in need of grace. 

 Then the Holy Spirit gives me a nice jab-cross-hook-upper combination to my soul in the most loving way possible. 

Hey, Kim. You might want to check that 2X4 thats stuck in your eyeball. Repent. Ask for forgiveness. Love. 

From countless emails, comments, and tweets...readers have shared that God has used this blog in other people's lives to draw them closer to Him. This blog has brought joy and peace to readers who don't know God or simply those who choose not to believe in Him....all of which I am so humbled & thankful. However, if there's anything that God has done through this blog....it's refine me. He's sifted my soul. He's crushed my identity when it's not based on him. He's allowed me to grasp a small picture of grace. He's made me new

-Don't get discouraged when your numbers don't grow. Don't be jealous when someone else's blog does grow. I saw this quote somewhere recently:
"Bloggers are your community, not your competition"

-Rejoice and be thankful, but not boastful if they do. Be humble if your tiny space on the interwebs blows up. Don't lose who you are because you have a lot of housewives & stay at home moms that read your blog during nap time. It's not that impressive to everyone else in real life. Promise.

-When you are going through burn-out, take a step back. Ask your real life friends for forgiveness for neglecting them and putting more love & energy into your space on the internet.  Commit to them. Spend time with them.

-Don't think that your readers and twitter followers need a  play by play of every moment of your life. Leave your phone at home on date night. We don't care what you're eating! Just spend time with your husband and don't instagram a split screen of you two. Put your phone down and LIVE. More than anything, this will allow you to take a break and stop working. 

-Don't allow  your blog to be an idol that determines how you feel about yourself. Because if we think about it, we'll realize that blogs are a pretty lame-ass idol. Sorry for saying ass. Bottom line, I'm just trying to say that blogging shouldn't bring out the worst in you.

Enjoy your blog, but don't worship it...k?  K.

((stepping off of my soap box for now))

love.






46 comments:

  1. Wow, this was way beyond awesome. I so needed to hear this. You rock for putting your heart out there. Thanks so much =)

    - Sarah
    agirlintransit.blogspot.com

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  2. Your words are beautiful. So much sweet truth here.

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  3. Thank you, Kim! These are beautiful words :)

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  4. Love this post : ) As a Christian blogger and especially as I step into owning my own brick and mortar Im constantly trying to sift out how exactly God wants this all to align with Him and not the other way around. Im constantly in prayer, needing to be reminded that it was HIM who brought me into the realization of who I am and what I was created to be. And it was HIM that even made me that way in the first place. In all ways, at all times this is for and about HIM. We are all beautiful manifestations of his purposes and love for this Earth. And Im just beyond thankful that He has grace for me as I navigate my way through what it really looks like to live in that truth and push into my dreams. A grace that demands the very best while loving us the whole way there. : )

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  5. Really enjoyed this post, thank you! I think it's always good to step back and re-evaluate your little space in the blog world. You're doing a great job and I've enjoyed reading your thoughts!

    Kendra
    all-of-the-stuff.blogspot.com

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  6. Beautiful post Kim.
    PS I love that quote: "Bloggers are your community, not your competition" - So true, so true.
    xoxo

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  7. Woah. Who told you that you could talk to me like that?
    Here's all you need to know about me: I liked that you said "lame-ass" and I loved that you said, "Don't allow your blog to be an idol that determines how you feel about yourself." I never even asked God to show me how he wants me to use my little blog. Hmmm....I need to take a moment and do that now.

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  8. Great post! Bloggers are a community! It's become so competitive over the years, which is sad, because we're missing out on the connections we could be making!

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  9. Great thoughts!! I'm very new to blogging, but already I feel myself comparing myself to other blogs, questioning why they have so many followers when I don't, checking page views, etc. A great reminder to let blogging stay a fun hobby and not take over my life!

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    1. the minute you start to compare, the minute you don't believe you're good enough..which is NOT the case!

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  10. Amen! I LOVE YOU and your honest words. It's so refreshing. :)

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  11. I was talking with some friends this past weekend about authenticity and how it relates to online presence. You came to mind, and this post just affirms your desire to be YOU. Which is beautiful. I'm thankful for what you share, the pretty and the ugly, because none of us are one hundred percent either of those things.

    PS. I love that you said ass.

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    1. seriously, you're the sweetest. my inner skeptic never allows myself to believe that anyone is pretty & perfect, yet somehow my pride let's me think that I am. ouch. uggggly. my most recent conviction is that i hold a magnifying glass to everyone else's sin without ever thinking to look at mine.

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  12. Very nicely put. A blog is a lame idol.

    I actually enjoy posting little life happenings to Twitter and Instagram... but while I was spending time with family this past weekend, I didn't even touch my phone. It was really refreshing to be so present and in-the-moment.

    Thanks for sharing what God is teaching you and encouraging us!

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  13. Great post!

    Being a big deal on the internet isn't quite as big of deal as it sometimes feels!

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  14. "Put your phone down and LIVE"

    Love that.

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  15. This is truly, honestly, beautifully written–and the message is even more important.

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  16. so true, SO TRUE. thanks for telling it like it is! a great reminder!

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    1. i'm always willing to tell it like it is :) hopefully i'm tactful and graceful in it more often than not!

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  17. And my fanship just grew. You freaking rock Kim, thank you for this post!

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  18. This is beautiful and raw- the reason I keep coming back to your blog. It is SO easy to get caught up in the hype of blogging, but if we aren't using our talents for His glory? What's the point?

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  19. Thanks Kim :) I don't have a blog but i'm always reminding my self to put down my phone and that I don't do things to make a cute instagram photo out of what I'm doing. I do it because I love it or love the person I'm with and no matter how many ppl know that I did something cute and hipster or wore something trendy (not so often these days! haha) I should still be, like you said, living for real instead of making a social media autobiography. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! xoxo p.s. I like those pictures, stunning!

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  20. thank you so much for sharing this. i REALLY need to hear it!!

    xx
    www.jessicawho.me

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  21. Oh, this post is so perfect. We all need this reminder constantly. Most of all I love that quote about bloggers not being your competition. So true. Thanks for sharing your heart with us!

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  22. Kim~
    You my sweet dear are so wise beyond your youthful years.
    God surely was leading you as you spoke this words.
    So well written.
    No apologies needed for using ASS in the perfect context.
    You my dear are such a doll.
    You spread so much love and sunshine everyday.
    Thank you for sharing such a raw post about blogging.
    xo
    LOVE following your cuteness on Instagram.

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  23. I think I really needed to read this post today. Thank you so so much.

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  24. dang girl. well said, very well said! i love that quote about bloggers being our community and not competition!

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  25. haven't visited in awhile but i am so glad i came by today. i needed this and you were able to put so eloquently into words how i feel so often.
    thanks luv,
    gina

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  26. Super duper excellent post, thank you :)

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  27. I always imagine my audience being my sister. Or being at camp and sharing life with the girls in my cabin. :-) seems to help me keep things in perspective!

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  28. This is a great, great post! Thanks for the little reminders. :)

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  29. Stopping by from JessicaWho? This was beautiful. I think it's easy to get caught up in the hype - but the thing to remember is we all started at one little follower, I know for me it was my husband. I don't even look at numbers anymore. I write for my kids and my family - if someone stumbles upon my blog and decides they like what I have to say and becomes a follower, that is great. It makes me feel good, but if they decide they don't want to read what I write, that is fine too. My life is not defined by my blog.

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  30. Kim, I just love you. I would love to meet you in real life to talk His grace & balancing online life with real life. :)

    I actually deleted the FB app off of my phone last night... I found myself checking it constantly even when I know there really isn't much going on. It's just not worth the time wasted.

    I get so discouraged sometimes with my little blog. Even though I like to tell myself things like "comments and readers do not matter as much as seeking to glorify my Savior", it hurts when I work hard on a post & get almost no response. It hurts when I sew away but never sell much. BUT, I hold onto the fact that comments/praise/people who love my blog don't matter as much as using my online presence to encourage & love on others.

    Work in progress here, girl! Thanks for sharing your heart. xoxo!

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  31. What a wonderful and real post!!! I have found so many things you said to be true about blogging thank you for sharing this:))

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  32. I have to agree...this was to the point and absolutely awesome!!! It is so easy to get caught up in the cyber world and neglect the ones that are right there doing life with you. Good reminder to just leave the phone home or in the purse. How many food pictures do you really need to post anyway:-) Haha! I am so guilty of that and of just instagramming the totally random thing that no one really cares about!! I needed to hear this. Thank you so much for the raw honesty!!!

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  33. "There's always pride to kill when you get a little boastful because of a magazine feature, a jump in readers, a record amount of comments."

    You put a link to your entry about the magazine you were featured in. That doesn't really keep your pride in check. It just makes you seem more prideful.

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    1. Hi Beth,

      In case you didn't notice, which it doesn't seem that you did, there are links throughout the post linking to previous posts that further explain my faith journey through this blog. In fact, that particular link was to show and admit that I was, indeed, prideful when I was featured and that I had to fight that pride during that time. The whole point of this post was to admit where I've been wrong and sinful and encourage others to check their hearts & motives...so no need for you to create a fake profile to hide behind in order to be snarky in your otherwise anonymous comment.

      You can use my words & misuse them all you want, but I have a feeling there are many more important things you could be doing with your time...or Perhaps not. Feel free to email me if you'd actually like to dialogue, otherwise you can keep your comments Intended for hurt to yourself.

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  35. Hi Kim! Cathing up on old posts and came upon this one. Your blog has been a great inspiration and I love how God is using your crafty heart and blog to reach people. That is what it is all about. Letting your God given talents shine thru. I also like that you are being humble/real and not letting it make your head big. I remember the first time I had a comment on my blog from someone that wasnt my mom or hubby, I was like WOW! Ha! :)
    Thanks for sharing this girl!

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  36. Thank you so much for this post. I find that I need reminders about why I blog. I really appreciate your reminder for humility and using our blogs to share our blessings and our understanding of faith. 2 readers or 200, there is only ONE who matters. :-)

    Please keep sharing.

    Thanks.

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  37. I love this. At church recently, someone said "If anything comes in the way of your time with God- it's an idol". Woah. How many times have I thought "I have to blog before I go to bed, then cut my scripture study short or even completely out. Way too many, is the answer. So the past two weeks I've tried to be better, but I also LOVE what blogging has added to my life. Not just temporal blessings, actually, they've mostly been spiritual and social blessing, which are what I needed most. I love blogging and it's all about finding that balance between blessing and hobby, and obsession and idolism.

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